A size two, tall, gorgeous blonde woman tells a 250 pound
woman, “You have a problem.”
How would YOU react? … Wait. What if I told you they were
out on the water in a motor boat together?
What if that skinny woman went on to say, “You’re not just overweight—you’re
fat. You’re OBESE.”
What if I told you they were friends?
Well, if I had been the fat woman, and a little size two
woman said that to me … I would toss her over the side of the freaking boat and
speed away!
Can a privileged, skinny TV host write a book about obesity
in America? Okay, yes, but should she?
Mika Brzezinski, co-host of a popular MSNBC morning show and
bestselling author, has lived with an eating disorder that has plagued her
mentally and physically, but she’s looks great in a sleeveless size two dress.
… So that makes it okay, right? No.
Diane Smith, Emmy-Award-Winning Producer and Journalist, has
struggled with food and weight her entire life as well, but her struggle was
evident on the outside weighing in at 250 pounds. … So that makes her a
failure, right? No.
OBSESSED: AMERICA’S FOOD ADDICTION—AND MY OWN shares both
Mika’s and Diane’s personal struggles to overcome their food obsessions and
maintain a healthier lifestyle. The juxtaposed stories of an obese person and a
skinny person really played to the point of food obsession well. To know that
many of Mika’s stories were MY OWN stories, and her feelings were my feelings,
really surprised me.
Fat people often think skinny people have no idea how they
struggle against food every day. Truth is: many skinny people struggle more
with food obsession than their overweight counterparts.
The bottom line is: I couldn’t put the book down. From the
opening page where Mika writes, “How does a person who is not overweight write
about her lifelong obsession with overeating without sounding like a
narcissistic, woe-is-me skinny girl with an overinflated image … you can’t. No
matter what you say or how you say it, you’re going to sound like a privileged
skinny bitch with food issues. Oh yeah, and a TV show. And a woman who was born
into a wonderful, prominent family and has a blessed life.” … to the final
pages where Mika writes, “I thought all this research and writing would help
Diane get her life back on track. But she made me realize that I had lot more
work to do on myself … I am more self-aware and less self-righteous when the
topic turns to eating.” … I was enthralled by the story, by the facts, and by
the testimonials.
I dog-eared more pages than I should have, but there were so
many things that I wanted to share, address, and debate in not only my review
but also in my conversations with other people about the topic, I just couldn’t
stop myself from marking the passages in the book that moved me.
The most important pages, that brought me to tears, were the
ones about what you should and should not say to your daughters about food
related issues. I love my children, and I have struggled to teach them better
eating and exercising habits than I’ve practiced myself. I never wanted them to
grow up with the same weight and body image issues I’ve had. But as I read
Mika’s passages where she expressed her concerns about passing her food
obsessions on to her daughter, I shook my head and thought, “Mika, you’re
fooling yourself if you don’t realize they are watching your behavior more than
listening to your advice.” Then Mika went on to write, “Carlie and I … both
weighed ourselves. … [and Carlie said to me] ‘You have an eating disorder, so
that’s why you weigh less than me.’” (page 230). I started to cry! I chastised
myself for judging Mika unfairly. Truth of the matter is, all of our children
are smarter and more intuitive than we give them credit for. My children know
the truth about my eating habits. So do yours.
I can honestly say I’m not a fan or a follower or a viewer
of Mika Brzezinski. I’d never read anything written by her or watched a
television program she hosted. It doesn’t matter if she’s a liberal, and I’m
not. It doesn’t matter that she’s a size two, or four, or six, and I’m not.
The fact is: She’s written a great book here, and if it’s
read and discussed by people it can serve as a useful tool in our society. This
would be an excellent choice for a discussion at book club, mothers’ groups,
parenting classes, nutrition classes, weight-loss programs, school health
classes, and more.
Here are the reasons I gave the book four stars instead of
five:
1.
It seemed to me that Diane Smith had contributed
enough content to the book to be given credit as a coauthor rather than just a
collaborator.
2.
It would have been more dramatic and eye
catching to see beginning versions of Mika and Diane on the front cover and
final versions on the back cover. … There is a “final version” picture on the
back cover, but only skinny Mika on the front.
3.
There was a concluding chapter by Mika, but no
concluding thoughts from Diane. This was my main disappointment with the book.
I wanted to know how Diane felt at the end of the journey.
4.
Since this was a book about body image and
appearance, I would have enjoyed a photo section in the center of the book
featuring the people interviewed.
Regardless of the above list, I highly recommend this book
to all women.
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